Navigating the Path to True Love: the Journey to Finding "The One"

Can you truly know whether you have met “the one”? Sadly, there is not a certain test to answer if they are the one, but you can be optimistic in your relationship if you see such signs that are features of a very unique bond between two individuals:

1. Being with your partner makes you glow.
2. There is a level of comfort and connection you have never felt with anyone else.
3. You feel like your best self.
4. You are in sync with each other.
5. You allow the relationship to unwind naturally
6. Your connection is powerful between each other.  

I met a guy in high school, his name is Josh. He was my brother's friend, he was in my brother's class. He also was in boy scouts with him. He thought that I was my brother's girlfriend because my brother never told his friends he had a sister. After Josh found out I was my brother's sister, he started to talk to me. He would flirt with me, and we would get to know each other. He would want my number and I would say no because I play hard to get. So finally I gave in and gave him my number. We would text every day after school. I was a shy person. I did not let people in my life easily. But with Josh I felt comfortable. He was funny and honest. He was a senior, so prom was coming up. He asked me to prom and I went with him. We dated for 6 months. Then when he went to college the next year, and I was a senior in high school, he became distant. So we ended it.

My freshman year in college I ran to him in the hallway, and we talked. We became friends and started hanging out every week after class. We had a great time going to garage sales and going to lunch. We connected really well. We stayed friends for like two years. Then we started to date ago in 2019, we were serious and then 6 months later he ended it. I was heartbroken. He told me he loved me, but was not going to have time for me. And that i deserve better. So we went our separate ways. A year later, I met a guy online. He was a great guy. He supported me in school, and loved me but me and him did not connect. I could open up to him. I thought I loved him so after 6 months I moved in with him. Then he changed. He would play his video games every day, and not make time for me. I was not myself with him. My mom noticed and my friend could tell I wasn't happy. So, I moved out. Then, a month later I got a text from Josh saying how he hoped I was doing well. Well I was not doing well. He and I met up for dinner and caught up on life. I was myself with him, my happy self came out life the connection with him never left. I realized then that I have missed my best friend and the love of my life. He was the one for me. He and I would always end up somehow. The thing is, we met in high school but it was not the right time for you to date then. I think we were only meant to be friends. Because after a year from him, he had time to focus on him and figure out what he wanted. I knew I was in love with him. And that he and I were meant to be together. We just connected really well, we made each other happy and are comfortable with each other. But he realized after a year that I was the one for him and no one else. We came back to each other in the end.

But being apart from each other and not talking for a year made him realize that he was in love with me. He also focused on loving himself. Because then we were together, he would talk about negative things about himself. And did not that he was good enough for me. He did not understand why I loved him so much. But during the year apart he realized why. He thought through a lot of things and started to love himself. You should love yourself first before you love someone else. If you do not love yourself then you can not give the other person the love that they need. Josh started to love himself more. He is a different person now that he loves himself. He’s a happier person, and he is not negative anymore.

So you could have met the one at some point but it was not the right time, or you have not met them yet but will later in life. You will know when you meet the one. You are excited about seeing that one person and have a deep connection with them. You both are comfortable with each other. Laurie sue Brockway says: “Soulmates often feel a sense of a familiar and a sense of comfort around each other. Many people say it's easier to relax into that person and allow themselves to be vulnerable.”