Three Key Aspects Of Success For Your Life Goals
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- Never stop asking
- See your problem differently
- Reject rejections
One of the most powerful uses of gratitude can be incorporated in the Creative Process to turbo-charge what you want. Be grateful all time even when the best is yet to surface, if you are finding what to be grateful of, be grateful for the life you live because greatness awaits grateful people. When you give thanks as though you have already received what you want, you are emitting a powerful signal to the Universe. That signal is saying that you have it already because you are feeling gratitude for it now. Each morning before you get out of bed, make it a habit to feel the feelings of gratitude in advance for the great day ahead, as though it is done.
Never stop asking
Tim Ferriss, who later penned the bestseller The 4-Hour Workweek, used a creative approach to get Jack Canfield to mentor him. At the time, Tim was about 26 years old and had not yet written his book. He knew he wanted to write a book and he knew he wanted Jack as one of his publishing mentors. He also knew Jack was very busy and most likely would say no. What he did was brilliant. Tim joined a group called the Silicon Valley Association of Startup Entrepreneurs and volunteered to be their next program chair. He then called me and said he wanted me to speak there, and while they couldn’t pay him anything, he would introduce him to some of the most powerful people in Silicon Valley who might be able to hire him as a consultant. Since the flight from Santa Barbara to Santa Jose is less than an hour, He agreed to come speak. Tim’s real agenda, it turned out, was to get to know Jack, which was accomplished when they went out for food and drinks after the meeting. Jack confessed Tim is one of the most interesting and engaging people he have ever met, and they quickly became friends. Months later, when he asked Jack to be his mentor, it was a slam-dunk yes!
See your problem differently
The way we see our problem is the problem. People are intrigued when they see good things happening in the lives of individuals, families, and organizations that are based on solid principles. They admire such personal strength and maturity, such family unity and teamwork, such adaptive synergistic organizational culture. And their immediate request is very revealing of their basic paradigm. "How did you do it? Teach me the techniques." What they're really saying is, "Give me some quick fix advice or solution that will relieve the pain in my own situation." They will find people who will meet their wants and teach these things; and for a short time, skills and techniques may appear to work. The more people are into quick fix to eliminate their problems, they more they fall into trouble and get confused of the next step to take. At this point, one is needed to take some breathe to strategize else it may be hard to find solution before all is damaged.
Trying to make more money when you are broke can cause you losing the little you have with you if care is not taking. How? any opportunity introduced to you with great benefits will look awesome to you. Without counting the cost and critically estimating the requirements may put you in a big loss. There was a time ponzi schemes were the hottest reigning business, some people who tried to enjoy the luck fell victim of its bad luck. So when you have a problem, looking for a quick “one of all fix” may not work out well. Sometimes some of our problems come like season. We know when it is coming, hence preparation to battle it should have been in place. But we forget to do the necessary and end up carrying long and weary faces when it comes. As a student, you know when exam will start, you know when it’s test week but fail to prepare, you let it budge you there after and you see it as a problem. Come on! It’s not a problem at all. Paying your house rent is what you know, you know when it’s due, so preparation needs to start the very first day you know. Don’t let it be a problem to you when deadline is about near. Problems are servants. Problems bring possibilities. They help you grow and lead to better things, both in your organization and within your life. Inside every problem lies a precious opportunity to improve things. Every challenge is nothing more than a chance to make things better. To avoid them is to avoid growth and progress. To resist them is to decline greatness. Embrace and get the best from the challenges in front of you. And understand that the only people with no problems are dead.
An unhappy customer shouting at you might seem like a problem. But to a person thinking like a champion, that scenario is a giant opportunity to improve the organization’s processes to ensure that doesn’t happen again and to get some feedback that may be used to enhance products and services. So the problem has actually helped to improve the company. An interpersonal conflict at work can seem like a problem. But if you think like a leader and use the circumstance to build understanding, promote communication and enrich the relationship, the problem has actually made you better. It has been fodder for your growth and served you nicely.
Reject rejections
No(s) don’t kill dreams, they facilitate dreams. When Mark Victor Hansen and Jack Canfield finished the first Chicken Soup for the Soul book, they flew to New York with their literary agent Jeff Herman. They met with about 20 publishers over the course of three days, and none of them were interested in publishing their book. “Collections of short stories don’t sell,” they were told. “The title doesn’t work.” “The stories are to Pollyanna too nicey-nice.” Later they submitted the manuscript by mail to 20 more publishers. They also said no! At that point, the agent gave them the book back and said he couldn’t sell it. Of course they were disappointed, but they never got discouraged. When the world said “no,” they said “next!” they continued to reach out to publishers on our own. They also asked every member of our speaking and training audiences to fill out a “Commitment to Buy” form they created, indicating how many copies they would commit to buy when the book was finally published. They eventually had promises to buy more than 20,000 books! Armed with copies of these forms and a backpack full of spiral-bound copies of our best 30 stories, they headed off to the American Booksellers Convention in Anaheim, California, where they walked the floor of the exhibit hall for two days talking to one publisher after another about publishing the book. But again they heard no, no, no! And hour after hour, booth after endless booth, they said next! next! next! At the end of the second very long day, Peter Vegso and Gary Seidler, the co-presidents of Health Communications Inc., a small publisher from Deerfield Beach, Florida, agreed to read the manuscript when they got back home. Later that week Gary Seidler took the manuscript to the beach and read it. He loved it, and he and Peter decided to publish it. After more than 140 rejections, the book was finally published and went on to sell more than 10 million copies in 47 languages, launched a series of more than 200 books that has gone on to sell more than 500 million books worldwide, and created a brand now worth more than $100 million!
Those hundreds of nexts have really paid off! In order to be successful, you have to reject rejection. Rejection doesn’t mean no! It simply means not yet. It took Jack and Mark almost two years to get their book published and another 14 months before it got on the New York Times bestseller list. But once it did, it stayed in the number-one position for more than three years! Don’t get discouraged when you get a no. Just keep asking! You have to accept that you may get a lot of no’s on the way to a yes.
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