Dealing With Failures & Mistakes

How to deal with failures and mistakes

We all fail sometimes. Failure is an integral part of a human being’s reality. Whenever I fail at something, I go through these basic sequences.

1. Accept the fault. The hardest thing about failing is learning to fully and whole-heartedly accept the responsibility for your failure.
2. Allow yourself some few minutes to regret your actions or inactions. This is also important to me because bottling emotions is practically impossible. Give yourself that chance to be pissed, to be hurt, to be disappointed
3. Use the emotional energy of your failure to make a decision. Do you hate failing? I know I do. I feel utter waterfalls of negative emotion whenever I attempt to analyse a failure. However, the trick is not just to feel without purpose. Use that pain and emotional energy to make a resolve to be better.
4. Plan. There's no sense in a positive decision for change without a concrete plan to follow in order to achieve the success you wish for. I spend the rest of my built up emotional energy to make a step by step plan of attack which factors in all the wrong things I may have done earlier. Be humble enough to learn from others who may have succeeded at the very thing you want to achieve.
5. Commit, Persevere and Do. How important is it to you to succeed? All success must be seen in the mind before it can become reality. If you want to turn the tables on your failure badly enough, you will commit to your plan of change and persevere when things get difficult. Ultimately the most important thing to remember after a failure is to try again. Do something. Planning, regretting, moaning without any positive action leaves you in the same spot. Get up. Try again. Life is too short to be afraid to fail.
6. Suceed. I don't stop working at my plan until this last step happens. When you learn to turn the small failures into success, you feel invincible. With enough persistence, eventually you realize that no failure cannot be turned into a success story. You cannot call yourself a successful person if you cannot learn to turn your failures into successes. Who do you want to be? You haven't truly failed until you have given up. Remember this : “Winners don't quit. Quitters don't win.”