The Type of Daughter in Law for Parents

I’m close to a 4.0 student, I finished my college at 20, I finished masters at 22 and I've been working for almost 2 years,I'm going to get my MBA soon. You know I’m driven, kind and how extremely family oriented I am. Srushi is in med school and we both are proud to say, we were raised by single mom's with a very strong character. I will never apologize for being who I am, and neither should anyone.It is easy on the other side to point a finger at them for being single. As I said, Only a few hearts can understand the pain of the others and there is no shame in what they did. The only mistake they ever did in their life was that they were never selfish, they have only lived and worked hard for me and srushi and have always strived to give us a better future.

Your family is welcome to go to our home town and inquire about my family. I would be shocked if your parents were to hear otherwise. They both have sacrificed their life for us and today my grandmother is proud to say, that she is a mother of two strong daughters who fought battles and moved forward with grace, dignity and a whole lot of strength. They’ve lost their husbands, but they’ve never lost their character. I respect your parents, However, I don’t want them to misjudge mine, no one wants to get divorced. No ONE. It wasn’t what they have dreamt of. It’s not something I dream of. What I want is for my children to never to go through what I went through. I have witnessed and experienced the effects of divorce first hand, and I will do everything in my power to shelter my kids from that pain.

I bet I’m not the type of daughter in law your parents ever wanted or expected. I bet when you told about my family they were very disappointed. They don’t trust me. They probably think I’ll break your heart, you are the most important thing in my life and I bet they don’t have a clue. Before they knew about me I’ve already wanted to impress them,I wanted to be wonderful just so that they could feel at ease that their son was in good hands. I don’t know how can I show that you are in good hands! What do I provide? A loving environment for you to grow and develop as a man. I give you encouragement and support. 

I share your good days and bad days, we cry together, we laugh together and slowly we’re experiencing adulthood together. I know it’s hard for them to like me. I always try to do things that are best for you and I, If it affects you.I feel like we’re not so different, I enjoy when you talk about your mom and sometimes I can’t help but think your mom and my mom are similar, their thoughts are relatable. I don’t want to lose you. We love each other very much and hope to someday start our own family. We have plans, big ones and someday hope to make it our reality. I know they wish we weren’t together. While we do our best not to let it affect us, it does.

You have so many things you wish that you could tell them but you are so afraid to hurt them,at the same time you are afraid to hurt me so you are in a limbo and you go back and forth between us. The truth is I know I could try better, only if they gave me the chance. There is so much I want to share about my childhood. I want to share stories with them,help them get to know me better and In turn I’d love to hear about the adventures they have been on in their life.I’d love to hear how mischievous you were when you were a kid.

I wonder what I could do to show them how much I care about you,even if I know they won’t love me like a daughter, or an extended family member I still wish they would. because it’s a difficult thing to accept when one of the most important women in your partners life doesn’t accept or welcome you.I wish I could introduce them to my mom and aamma, as they are my favorite people in this world.I’m scared, I’m scared because of their preconceived notions, they wouldn’t like me or them. They probably would think that my family is not good enough. I don’t know if I could bear to witness that or let it happen. 

They have done so much for me and If they make you choose, I'll always want you to choose them and there's nothing you and I can do but to accept it.I know this hurts you, do they notice this? Sometimes you tear up and the strain is evident. I want them to like me because you and I love each other and it would mean so much to us to have their blessing, but most of all I want them to like me because they want to, because I’m a good person and I have done nothing wrong but to fall in love hopelessly with you. I dream of the day that your mom and I can go out to lunch together.I hope that should you propose to me, that it would be with their blessing and that they can be happy for us.

I can’t promise that I will never make a mistake but For every mistake I make I will ensure that I am there to make up for it. I can’t say I will always know the right things to say to comfort you, but I will make sure that I always try. And for them,I will continue to try my hardest to impress them, to wow them and to make them proud to have me in your family. Because truly and honestly, I just want to be with you and to be a part of your family, and I hope someday they feel the same way too.I’m not perfect, but I want you to know that I will always try my hardest to be the best I can be, for you, for your family and for mine.If they gave me the chance, I think they could really like me.