Why Men/Women Refuse To Get Married

Marriage is considered one of the great things of life. But, not everyone is interested in it. There are people who want to marry but some do not hurry to stick with anyone. Paradoxically, there are more and more people who are afraid of marriage. When I asked my 27-year-old elder sister why she likes to be single, she told me calmly, "I'll tell you seven reasons why I and many others do not want to get married.

1. Only you know what you want.

Not getting married allows you to live a completely free life. I can do things in either right or wrong way without fear of anyone judging me or my spouse. Though making yourself a priority seems to be a selfish thought, it really just means that I want to focus on developing myself well. While marriage is depending on each other for happiness, living alone is being independent.

2. Your money is still yours.

One of the biggest problems couples deal with is their financial situation. No married couple is sure that they will not quarrel over money matters during their years together. In an instant, countless spending burns your salaries, bonuses and savings: diapers for babies, gifts for this and that occasion, a Southeast facing home or a 7-seater SUVs. Thus, a lot of people choose not to get married to avoid undue financial conflicts. Self-consumption and self-savings are enough, or generally they do not like sharing financial situation with anyone else.

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3. Loving each other is not enough to get married

Who says marriage is the best way to prove to your partner that you love them so much? There are various ways to show love and marriage is just one of them. My sister is still beside her long-time boyfriend but never mentioned marriage as the best way to express her love to him. Instead, they give each other small gifts or sometimes escape for long holiday together.

4. Traveling comfortably

Yes, no one can deny the fact that people who are not bothered about family issues tend to travel more than those who are married. Definitely, no woman want her weekends covered fully by her sister-in-law’s wedding, her grandfather-in-law's death anniversary, or the frightening family reunion. Rather than hang around the kitchen with pots and pans, they want to have plenty of time to be here and there to explore.

5. Marrying can make other relationships complicated

Marriage will change many things in one’s life such as relations with family, relatives and friends, which makes one feel she is living in a different world. However, some are not prepared well enough to confront these matters in the married life. That is why so many people, especially some women choose not to get married.

6. Have capitals to invest for your own future

Instead of spending on a lavish pre-wedding photoshoot underneath the Eiffel tower, a honeymoon in Maldives or new IKEA furniture, couples can use this budget to build a start-up, invest on stock markets or make little profit for themselves at least. For example, an individual can pay for a financial literacy course with the hope that he can double the money in the long run. At the moment your financial goal is achieved, if you decide to get married, it still won’t be too late.

7. Who can be sure you will not divorce?

Higher divorce rate is partly attributed to anxiety experienced by couples. Couples go away from marriage because they panic and then they divorce.

To sum up, there are many reasons for one to refuse to get married because everyone has a different perspective of how to live and love. You neither have to be like someone nor imitate what they do when you do not feel same. Marriage is a great thing, however, none should push another on whom to marry or when to marry. Each individual should decide this for himself and be responsible for their decision.