Exploring the Benefits of Dating Apps and Online Dating

With the progress of the times, more and more communication methods have been invented. from mail to e-mail, the phone to mobile phone. Now, there is a new way to communicate with people, the dating app is one of them. people browse other people’s profile to find their dream person. "You probably spend countless hours every week clicking through profiles and messaging attractive women on dating sites and apps. You get a response every now and again, but rarely from anyone, you actually want to date. Even worse, you’ve been ghosted so many times your bros have started calling you Casper"(vidaselect). This quotation shows even when people matched with someone, but people never get a response from the others. People started questioning, is dating app best way to date? On April 21st, 1995, Match. com invented. According to Aaron Smith and Monica Anderson of Pew research, at the time "only 14% of American adults were internet users, " (Smith). Obviously, dating app is not the best way to date in that time period, because finding someone in the user’s area would be difficult, and if the user did find someone in that area, what if the user doesn’t like them? But as time goes the number of people who use the internet are increasing.

According to the Pew Research Center survey in 2016, "59 percent of Americans think dating apps are a good way to meet someone. Though the majority of relationships still begin offline, 15 percent of American adults say they’ve used a dating app and 5 percent of American adults who are in marriages or serious, committed relationships say that those relationships began in an app"( Smith and Duggan, pew research Center). It seems people have a positive attitude about online dating app, and that 5 percent of people proved that online dating app is working, but low efficiency. Reporter Casey Johnston wrote, " Tinder is not actually for meeting anyone, a first-person account of the relatable experience of swiping and swiping through thousands of potential matches and having very little to show for it. "(theverge). Casey believes some people using tinder is not for meeting others but to see different people. Because they are nervous or overthinking. Which means online dating app can be the best way to date for some type of people, and an online dating app can also be a bad way to date for people who is always nervous or overthinking. "One-in-five adults ages 25-34 years old have used online dating, but it’s also popular with older singles, too, " (Smith).

In other words, one of your finger has tried online dating. Smith and Anderson also provide the statistics that shows the percentage of Americans who have used online dating by age, showing that the 24-35 and 36-50 are the age groups that use it the most. But it is also important to know what the purpose when people use it, for hook up, long term relationship? According to Smith’s research "24% of internet users have searched for information online about someone they dated in the past, up from 11% in 2005. " and "24% of internet users have flirted with someone online, up from 15% in 2005, " (Smith), this quotation shows that people doing that because they are trying to make sure that their ex-girlfriend is doing worse than them, and to flirt with people they think are hot. Now we know why they use these apps. But how successful are these apps help people finding their dream person? According to a 2, 373 person survey conducted by Mic in March using Google Consumer Surveys, most people met through their friends at a 38. 6 percent and 22. 3 percent were out or at work. And then we have online dating, at 9. 4 percent.

There is a study by the University of Chicago Psychologist John Cacioppo, "Results indicated that of the continuing marriages, those in which respondents met their spouse online were rated as more satisfying than marriages that began in an off-line meeting. Moreover, analyses of break-ups indicated that marriages that began in an online meeting were less likely to end in separation or divorce than marriages that began in an off-line venue. " (Cacioppo). This shows that Cacioppo finds that more than 1/3 of married couples met online. And he also discovered that the couples that did meet online had a more satisfying relationship. Since online dating apps are successful with nearly 1/3 of the population using it. Is it the best way to date? I just saw a funny video on Instagram, a creepy old man post few photos on tinder, all those photos have a muscular man, but this creepy old man is in the most Inconspicuous corner, he is trying to misguide people who are browsing his profile think that he is the muscular man, and turn out that he was the creepy old man. I guess what I am going to say is people that you meet may not look like in their profile, and the only way to discover this person is to truly romanticize with this person, and knowing everything about them. There is a lot of advantage and disadvantage in online dating apps.

First of all, just like the example above, people can use a fake profile to bait the other person. Secondly, gender usage, According to the pew research center, on tinder there is 65 percent user are male, which means 35 percent user is female. This greatly reduced experience while people using online dating apps, a male user need to compete with others, and female will have tons of message and decision to make. "The brain is not well built to choose between hundreds or thousands of alternatives. "(Ashley). Third, online dating apps only can send text and emoji. When a person says asshole to you online, people can not tell whether they are serious or not. We have vocal cues, facial expression, and body language. However, one of the best things about online dating app is its convenience. people can use it whenever they want, wherever they are. In the past, people only date people around them, but now people date people across a country, that been said, there is a huge amount of user on those dating apps, think about it, in real life, is it easy to find someone who is trying to their dream person, obviously it is not easy, but not on dating apps, people on dating apps are just like you, therefore it gives people the possibility to find their dream person. The other good thing about this is people never need to worry about reject. Use tinder, for example, a user needs to give the other a "like" and also need to receive alike in order to match. This means that if someone doesn’t like your face, you’ll never going to hear from them. This removes the fear of rejection from the user and gives the user the confidence to try again. In conclusion, online dating is the best way to date compare real-life date.

The benefits of online dating include a huge amount of choice, and people never need to worry get the rejection, in other word, people never gonna received negative feedback about their surface or something that they can not change. However, online dating apps are not good with people who are quiet, always nervous and overthinking. If people can not get any message from you, they probably think you are found someone, and nervous makes you cannot explain things well, so other people will think you are not interesting. But in general, online dating apps are the best way to date with people.